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Ani & die Reise: Traveling alone can be exciting - and exhausting

According to the motto “What has to go, has to go. About traveling and everything in between. ”Writes our long-time and dear companion Anika Landsteiner on her bloganidenkt. She also wrote a book. We are very much looking forward to Ani's column “Ani & die Reise”, which appears regularly on ZEITjUNG. Pack your bags already!

Traveling to Los Angeles alone was no problem for me in my early twenties. Driving alone through southern Italy by car in the late 20s turned out to be a late summer disaster. Why to go to hell alone And above all: Why does it sometimes work - and when does it not work at all? Everyone suddenly makes a lonesome rider, and if they have someone with them to snap the photos for Instagram, then at least they pretend they are alone. What is often part of the job for us travel bloggers is a challenge for others that they want to face. Can't be that difficult. Or? If you want to travel alone, you should ask yourself a question in advance: Am I just chasing the hype? Because that, ladies and gentlemen, has never worked. Travel, in whatever form, should be a decision made from within; not to finally have a reason to register with Blogspot to explain to the world and Hinterdupfing how enriching it is, this feeling of being on the road. For example, traveling alone makes sense for very pragmatic reasons: Are you single? Are you spontaneous but your friends aren't? Would you like to do something just for yourself, just to experience what it feels like? Congratulations, pack your suitcase.

Forcing happiness

At least one of the above reasons has always been a trigger for me. Spoiler: The idea of ​​traveling alone, however, is often very different from the experience it ultimately is.
Loneliness has almost always taken the free seat next to me on the plane because I wasn't used to being alone in this overcrowded world. In fact, from year to year it became more difficult for me to enjoy the sunset on the beach of my choice because all I saw in it was the cheesy, beautiful idea of ​​looking head to head into the horizon. Picking up the cell phone and making a choppy WhatsApp call to Germany never turned out to be a particularly clever idea: By the time the connection was stable, the sun was gone. So why even bother to travel alone? After all, there are so many reasons to leave it alone: ​​You can never take turns driving a car, you also have to be the driver and navigator at the same time, you can never share the room and so you always have to pay the full price, in the evening you sit alone surrounded by kissing and kissing couples in the restaurant - and then you have to experience these wonderfully beautiful moments alone, which often turns into a reaction of defiance: I have to enjoy it now! But it just doesn't work.

In the right place at the right time

On my Caribbean vacation a month ago everything suddenly changed. Perfect weather, nice people, powder-white sandy beaches, shimmering turquoise water, as if someone had poured millions of bottles of Blue Curaçao into it, salsa sounds from the bars, ice clinking in the mojito glasses and the feeling of making the absolutely right decision in the icy winter of Germany to have. Traveling alone works a bit on the principle of "at the right time in the right place". You should book exactly the destination that attracts you for this trip, so don't make any compromises here. You can find out in advance how and where you can meet other travelers or, if in doubt, fly to where you speak the language, so that contact with the locals can sometimes be an important bridge. In the end, it is like this: traveling alone helps you endure yourself. Getting to know yourself again. It sharpens the knowledge of how to react to the unfamiliar.
So I not only came back from the Caribbean tanned, but above all a little more self-confident, relaxed and happier. And while it is priceless to share the sunset with your favorite person, it is just as valuable to be able to enjoy it alone. For yourself, with yourself - and the hundred Instagrammers who then like the picture.

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Cover picture via pixabay under CC0 license, picture in text: (c) Anika Landsteiner