What if you don't set goals

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I was 24 years old, worked two or three hours a day, and made a lot of money selling life insurance. But the idea of ​​having to do with it all my life didn't make me happy. But downright panic.

But what did I want then?There were only two goals: Sculpture or psychology. I needed my Abitur for both, which I didn't have.

So I decided to take the second chance to get my high school diploma. Go to school again for two and a half. Live on small student loans. Then I didn't get a place straight away because my grade point average was not enough for the Numerus Clausus. So I flew to Israel and spent a year in the kibbutz picking oranges - and waiting.

Finally I got the decision and I started to study. Six years later I was there. At the age of 32 I graduated and opened a psychotherapeutic practice. I still have them today.

Goals - and the consistent pursuit of these goals will show you what you really want.


Goals are what move you forward in life; they are the catalyst for your dreams.
Goals are the first steps in every journey in life we ​​take, and they are our last too.

For a contented life it is very important that you recognize the meaning and importance of goal setting and apply this knowledge in your life.

Do you want to achieve something that many people dream of but that few people achieve? Then turn your dream into a goal and work towards achieving it every day. Otherwise, does it remain a dream or a vague idea that you don't think you could ever achieve? With one goal, you see every day that you are slowly making progress.


What actually is a goal?

According to Wikipedia, is a goal "A desired result that a person or a system imagines, plans and obliges to reach a personal or organizational end point in a kind of assumed development."

Many people try to achieve goals within a limited time by setting deadlines. In other words, any planning you make for the future, regardless of what it is, is a goal.

So, the next time you plan on getting your weekly chores done or you decide to watch that new great movie after work, that's a goal. All of your little everyday tasks are goals.

You know and deal with these types of goals. But there are other goals that you may call "dreams" or wishes so far.

  • At the age of 55 I want to be financially independent.
  • I finally want to start a family.
  • At 35, I have my own business.
  • Travel around the world once, that's it!
  • Friends always say I should write down my life.
  • In six months I want to take part in the half marathon.
  • I'm brand new to town and want to make nice friends.

These types of desires will likely require a plan - and some perseverance. Or even better: you make a goal out of it.

That has these 6 advantages.

1. Goals help you focus.

Imagine having to shoot an arrow without getting a target. Where would you aim? Somewhere in the air. Why should you aim for it? And what would the purpose be?

You can also look at your life like an arrow that flies forward. But where to? If you have no direction and no destination for your life arrow, it is all but pointless and a waste of energy and effort.

You can have enormous potential, but without focus your skills and talents are useless.

Because at the end of each day, achieving one or more smaller goals is what gives you direction in life and makes you happy.

In contrast, you probably also know the feeling that you are tired in the evening and ask yourself: "What have I been doing all day today?"

Sure, they were busy with a hundred things that needed to be done the whole time. But if none of them served your goal, the day will seem exhausting but useless.

By setting goals for yourself, you are giving yourself a goal to focus on. It is this sense of direction that allows your mind and unconscious to focus on a goal. This means that you waste less or no energy, but focus part of the day on doing the essential things to achieve your goals.

2. You can use goals to measure your progress.

By setting goals for yourself, you can measure your progress because you always have a set endpoint to compare against.

An example: You have set yourself the goal of writing a book with at least 300 pages. You write every day and work really hard, but along the way you lose track of how many pages you've written and how much more you have to write.

Instead of panicking, now just count the number of pages you've already written and instantly see your progress and know how much you have left to write.

Goals turn insurmountable mountains into manageable hills.

Most of us have big dreams that seem impossible to achieve. It's easy to feel discouraged when staring at a massive, seemingly insurmountable mountain.

The right setting of goals turns a long road into many small steps.

Planning towards these smaller goals not only makes it easier to formulate a specific action plan that you can get to work right away. Studies also show that reaching small milestones creates real motivation and greater satisfaction.

3. Goals help you not to get distracted.

By setting goals, you set yourself spiritual limits. Having a specific end point in mind makes it easier for you to stay away from certain distractions and focus on the goal.

This process happens subconsciously and subtly. To understand better, imagine the following:

Your best friend is moving to Switzerland and his flight departs at [9:00 p.m.]. You leave right after work at [8:30 PM] to see him off and you know it's a 20 minute walk to get to the airport. So make it a goal to get to the airport by jogging in 15 minutes so that you have more time to say goodbye.

Would you get distracted by "anything" along the way? Would you stop for a break or a snack? Would you stop by your house before heading to the airport? I bet you answered no to every question.

That's the power of goals: focus!

No matter who you meet on the way to the airport or what you see (assuming nothing is unusual), your destination allows you to stay focused. You subconsciously stay away from distractions and only focus on the goal.

So if you want to be successful at anything, set a goal and focus.

4. Goals help you overcome obstacles.

When you set a goal for yourself, you take responsibility for completing that task.

You feel very differently when you do things that you started on a whim and that don't mind if you complete them or not.

A goal tends to stick in your head, and when you haven't completed it, you feel an urge, "I should be doing xxx today."

These reminders in the back of your mind will help you overcome distraction and comfort.

But that only applies to short-term goals. It's different with long-term goals. Most people are not good with deadlines that are three or three months in the future. This is why it is important that you break down long-term goals into several short-term goals. So, you can complete part of the larger long-term goal every week or even every day.


5. Goals give you motivation.

The root of all the motivation or inspiration that you have ever felt in your entire life is goals.

  • The apartment or house in which you live.
  • The work you do every day.
  • The partner or family you live with.
  • The trips you've made.
  • The hobbies or sports you practice.
  • The music you listen to and the books you read.

These were all or were goals of yours. One or the other thing may have come into your life by chance. But your sticking to it has to do with your goals.

Each objective provides you with the basis for your drive. By setting a goal, you are giving yourself a specific endpoint of what you want to achieve and about which you can be happy.

It gives you something to focus on and 100% of your efforts to invest in. And it is this focus that drives motivation.

Goals are simply tools for focusing your energy in positive directions.

A goal set with an appointment gives you something to plan and work for.

A written goal is an outward representation of your inner desires;
it is a constant reminder of what you want to achieve.

Do you know that? You get something on your mind, you get excited and work like crazy, and then your motivation starts to wane.

Having goals that you can focus on and visualize will help you better connect with your inner desires. From this you will always get new motivational energy, which you need to survive times in which your focus is waning.

6. Goals show you what you really want.

There are also times when we set goals that don't reflect what we really want. Sometimes we think we need more money. Or another environment. Another partner. Or more free time.

But what we often really want is something that we can be passionate about.
Where we get into the flow. So stay on for a long time without looking at the clock.
Which fills us with meaning and where it doesn't matter what others think about it.

If you've never set goals for yourself, how do you find out what you really want?

If you wander through life with vague notions of “success” and “achievement”, you may never discover that buying a new BMW is not what will bring you true happiness. Or that the next step on the corporate ladder doesn't make you really happy because the supposed reputation and the extra money don't make up for the reduced time with your family.

By asking yourself what you really want and reevaluating your goals over and over again, you develop mindfulness and self-reflection. With it you can find out what you really want in life - and then you can go for it and do it.

Do you also have a big dream?

May I help you make it a reality?


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