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What is your sore point? Some people are not that clear about this. Sore points come to light whenever another person says or does something that affects you. It becomes problematic when the injured person overreacts. As if the other was intentionally trying to cause harm. However, apart from a few extreme cases, this is usually not the case. Carelessness on the one hand and a lack of communication on the other lead to misunderstandings escalating and leading to conflicts. It doesn't have to be. We'll show you how to react when someone hits your sore spot ...

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Definition of sore point: Please do not hit!

The sore point is the weak point of a person or thing. We also speak of the sore point as a synonym weak or neuralgic point. It is about the Achilles heel, which means: If someone brings up this particular topic, then the mood of the person affected is very likely to suddenly worsen.

The metaphor of the sore spot or the Achilles heel goes back to the Greek hero Achilles, who as almost invulnerable was true. Almost because, being the son of a goddess and a mortal, he was mortal himself. His mother dipped him in the Styx River to make him invulnerable.

Only the place where she held him during the immersion - his heel - remained unwetted and was therefore his weak point. The use of “wound” has also been in the Middle Ages figurative sense testified.

From a psychological point of view, there is usually something behind it unsolved problem. Something in childhood hurt you very much and there was no processing. The same fears are always touched:

  • You feel helpless.
  • You feel abandoned.
  • They have existential fear, that is, the fear of not surviving it.
  • You don't feel seen, small and unimportant.

The behavior of another person reminds you of precisely these situations. And accordingly, the reaction will be for many - in the figurative sense, you are not reacting to the person in the present, but he is one Substitute for onewho triggered these feelings back then.

If the sore spot is hit, it often triggers a feeling of anger and shame in the person concerned. A mix of Vengeance and defense uses. On the one hand a normal reflex, of course everyone wants to protect themselves from injuries.

Reactions when hit

If the sore point is hit, it affects a person's self-esteem. She questions herself, although she really doesn't want to. It is easy to overreact, the other person is hit harshly or the injured person withdraws offended and avoids contact from then on.

If such insults happen at work, it can be particularly violent, and indeed from two reasons:

  • ID

    Many identify with their work and are convinced of what they are doing. Regardless of whether you have earned a certain reputation as an experienced professional or whether you have put a lot of effort into a job as a career starter: in most cases everyone will do their job to the best of their ability. If this is in doubt - because the many years of expertise suddenly appear out of date due to new findings or your work does not hit the nerve of the customer - then it offends the vilified.

  • confrontation

    Another reason for violent backlash is that the victim is confronted with the "culprit" on a daily basis. He is constantly reminded in which area he is insufficient. Not a pleasant feeling that requires an emotionally matured character to be able to deal with.

Why self-reflection is important

Unfortunately, not everyone deals with their strengths and weaknesses. If a sore point is hit, it is easier to label the other as an evil aggressor - self-reflection takes longer and requires critical analysis with oneself.

It is always easier to find a scapegoat.

However, those who do not deal with their sore points and their Understand cause, thereby shifts the responsibility for one's own well-being onto other people.

In addition, there are two further aspects: On the one hand, the fact mentioned at the beginning that other people have someone do not willfully injure want - unless it is a dedicated bullying situation.

Second, escape cannot be an alternative. Everyone gets into the situation from time to time that they ...

  • offended,
  • offended,
  • leave,
  • criticized or
  • rejected

becomes. Breaking off contact with people who have caused this or could theoretically do this is a form of "safety" and protection from further injuries, but it also brings you about nice experiences.

Because in the same way you will ...

  • accepted,
  • loved,
  • missing,
  • praised and
  • estimated.

Dealing with the sore point

Of course, it is by no means intended to advocate dealing with toxic people. Not every abuse has to be shrugged off; this is crucial for your evaluation Intention of your counterpart.

To recognize them, the Considered context in which the offense took place and a clarifying conversation with the person who hit your sore spot. However, this is exactly what many people shy away from.

Instead of actively dealing with your weak points and addressing your counterpart, prefer to compensate: The frustration is drowned in alcohol, "a thick skin" is fed and what it takes is pushed aside - if necessary, the person too.

Such behavior is counterproductive in the long run: Not only will you repeatedly exposed to situations in which an unknown person, for example, hits your sore spot. Such a repression also eats up energies that you could use more meaningfully for other things.

In addition, as mentioned, the latter often does not work at work. Dealing with one's own weak points should not only be seen as a formal constraint. Rather, it helps you better understand yourself and your needs and yours Mature personality allow.

Miracle point leads to true self

Even if everyone has a sore point, there are some contemporaries who quickly react sensitively and others who are much more relaxed. What actually makes these people different? Most of them have a certain standing and are calm. They know themselves and their characteristics - positive as well as negative - well enough and stand by them.

Such a person is not afraid of rejection, because he has already experienced a lot in life and the experience that he survived anyway. This resting in oneself doesn't happen overnight; Life experience is therefore an important aspect in addition to self-reflection.

But what to do Life experience cannot be gained just like that, but dealing with sore spots is still important. These tips will help you:

  • Self-knowledge

    What is your sore point or sore points, what triggers you again and again when someone says or does something? Do not just observe who is doing what when, but how you deal with it. Are you retiring? Are you getting aggressive? Triggers can be that someone accuses you of a lack of intelligence or works with stereotypes such as “typical man / woman / Ossi / Wessi”. Also reflect on your own behavior, maybe someone has already reacted very sensitively to something that totally surprised you. Those who claim consideration for themselves should also show sensitivity in dealing with other people.

  • humor

    Try to take things with a sense of humor. Some people like to fool - you take the wind out of their sails if you don't take things personally and immediately withdraw offended. One possibility is to take up a thing and exaggerate it into the absurd, i.e. to work with the means of exaggeration. Example: Your colleague teases you in company sports that you have been in better shape before. Then you could counter by saying something like, "I thought I would play extra badly today so that you also have a chance."

  • openness

    Who is your counterpart? Is it a person you trust who has hit your sore spot? Then if you are injured you should bring it up. Formulated less as a reproach, but rather against the background of arousing understanding for your offense. For example, those who struggle with their weight do not have to be fooled by their counterparts as a "boom" or "hunger pound". However, caution is advised if the person you are talking to is an unsympathetic person - in such cases you leave your cover when you say what his statements do for you. It is enough to verbalize that you see through his game (and not play along) and in fact to limit the contact to the bare minimum.

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